1Pet 3:1 in the same way, you wives must accept the authority of your husbands. Then, even if some refuse to obey the Good News, your godly lives will speak to them without any words. They will be won over 2 by observing your pure and reverent lives.
An abusive partner only offers what they know.
They donot know Love so they offer abuse in various forms – beating, insults, emotional torture, etc, etc. B